We all come to a moment in life when we realize that it’s time to cut ties with someone that we once loved. It can come down to a realization that the person isn’t so great, or it can simply come down to a change in direction. Sometimes, though, we realize that someone in our lives is just downright toxic.
While everyone has a rough patch here and there, the relationships in our lives — be they romantic, friendly or otherwise — should add to it in positive and meaningful ways. Not all of them are, though, and despite our best efforts we will occasionally find ourselves entangled with someone who takes from our experience more than they add to it.
Toxic people are dangerous. They are dangerous to our inner peace and they’re dangerous to our self-esteem. The most dangerous thing about them, though, is that they can often lurk in our closest inner circles. The true secret to growth in this life is learning how to identify them and detach them from our journey to happiness.
Identifying the toxic people in our lives.
Everyone has someone in their life that does more harm than good.
These are the people that suck the joy out of work and holidays. They play manipulative games and give you the run around no matter how hard you try to make things work with them.
Learning how to name and identify these individuals in our lives enables us to protect ourselves from the underhanded consequences of their bad behavior. Luckily, there are a number of easy-to-read warning signs that someone in your life is poisoning your growth.
A gravity for drama.
Toxic people thrive on drama. It gets them sympathy and it gets them attention; best of all it allows them to manipulate the emotions of the people around them.
A person whose psyche is defined by the negative things in their life will only attract more negativity into yours.
While the dramatics might be fun for school kids and reality stars, it’s toxic when it comes to living a life fulfilled. Drama is a distraction — and a poor one at that — which causes us to lose focus of the people and goals that give our existence meaning.
Negative people suck all the positivity out of our lives and the longer we allow them to dwell in our orbit, the more they take.
Remember to think of yourself is one thing, thinking of only yourself is entirely another. Toxic people are obsessed with themselves and think only of their own feelings and opinions, showing little to no concern for others.
They fail to communicate like rational people, because they’re stuck on a broadcast with only one topic: them.
Toxic people genuinely do not care about your feelings or the feelings of anyone else for that matter. They feel the need to be the center of attention and they have a need to exercise control over the people and situations that surround them.
They get what they want and they don’t care how they have to get it, even if that means manipulating the people they love to do so. A self-centered family member might demand that you babysit their children (for free); while a self-centered boss might demand that you work late — heedless of your spouse or child’s birthday.
If you want to get to the root of your self-sabotage, look to your childhood. by: E.B. Johnson As parents, you want the best for your child. Sometimes, that can mean showing disapproval for certain behaviors or choices in order to encourage better choices and behaviors in future.