It’s all well and good to want success, but how do you actually attain it? Is it about getting up early and conquering the day? Or is it about a pricey planner and a set-in-stone routine?
Well, turns out that being more successful in your day-to-day life doesn’t have to be all that complicated. Just by sticking to a few basic guidelines or habits, you can instantly generate more success in your life today. What have you got to lose?
The 13 Best Habits That Will Make You More Successful
1. Follow your intuition.
Steve Jobs once said, “Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
If you want something bad enough, chances are you already know a fair bit about how to achieve it. If not, there’s a good chance you feel drawn to it and will respond to the process naturally. Trust your instincts and what they tell you to go after — and what they tell you to stay away from.
2. Get ready to work hard.
I won’t sugar coat it for you, success takes works and commitment. If you really want to achieve success, whether it’s in your career or your relationship, get ready to roll those sleeves up and really dig in. It’s gonna be a journey and it’s going to take effort on your part.
If you’re not used to finishing things or putting in the work — start small. Commit yourself to one small project or task and see it through to the very end, not stopping until it’s complete. Once you’ve accomplished one or two small tasks, move on to the big things. Before you know it, you’ll be conquering every mountain you build yourselves.
3. Make discouragement your b*tch.
On your journey to success — there’s going to be failures (but more on that later.)
True success comes hand-in-hand with setbacks and that can pile up into a whole heap of discouragements. If you want to win, you have learn how to overcome discouragement and make it your b*tch.
Self-doubt is the number one reason people give up on their dreams. Learn how to have a positive internal conversation with yourself whenever you start to feel like you can’t keep fighting forward. Try to figure out how to view your discouragement in a new light and take away its power over your life.
4. Stay positive.
I know it’s easier said than done but you have to stay positive if you want to be successful. Think about the most successful people you know. Were they positive people, overall, or negative people?
Thomas Jefferson once said: “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” He was right. When you stay positive, it’s easier to stay focused on your goals and what you want. It helps to increase your resilience and boost your moods — even if you’re faking that positivity from the depths of your soul.
So stay positive — especially when things get disappointing.
5. Believe in yourself.
There could be 99 people in the room and all that, but if you don’t believe in yourself you aren’t going to make it very far.
Have confidence in yourself and know that the things you want are valid. You have a right to want what you want and you have a right to go for it. The people around you can tell when you aren’t confident and it impacts the way they interact with you, which further impacts your own self perceptions.
So cut the external dialogue and pump up the internal dialogue. Chances are, the only person who will be surprised by your success is you. Go after what you want confidently!
6. Embrace new ideas.
They say that everything has already been invented and you shouldn’t “reinvent the wheel”, but you should embrace new ideas if you want to be more successful.
We start getting taught at an early age to stifle our most creative parts in order to fit in. New ideas become scary instead of exciting, and that really has a way of hampering personal innovation and discovery.
If you truly want to do things differently you need to think differently. Embrace new ideas and don’t be afraid to incorporate them into your journey to success.
7. Avoid conflict.
Some of the greatest leaders in history were not those who fought people or disregarded people — they were people who were (or are) friendly to the people around them. They had friends and family that wanted them to do well. They were likable, personable (within reason) people with major leadership skills.
And that’s one of the secrets to success: good leadership skills.
Success, in any format, means “rising through the ranks” and that’s hard to do without the support of the people around you. Cultivate good relationships and avoid conflict where possible. If words fail, try a different tactic, but remember to keep it positive and keep it civil.
8. Be decisive. Take Action.
When it comes to being a more confident, assured person, we can fall into the hasty trap. You hastily make decisions about things in an effort to appear decisive, but really, you’re just being lazy.
If you want to be successful learn how to be intelligently decisive and take action firmly. Take enough time to consider the facts and then make a decision as you see fit, consider both the pros and the cons thoroughly before doing so.
Don’t wait for other to take the lead in decision making, though. Trust yourself enough to stand behind your decision and the beliefs and knowledge that led you to it. No one will follow you if you don’t believe in yourself, no one will follow your decisions if you don’t believe in them yourself.
9. Have an unwavering will.
Some of the most successful people are the hungriest people, who have a will to succeed that can’t be hampered by any hurdles thrown their way. To be successful, in anything, you need to have an innate hunger too.
It’s much easier to give up on a dream than it is to fight for it, and if you don’t have a true passion to be more successful each setback is going to be that much more disappointing. A few slowdowns and you’ll be sure to give up altogether, which will do nothing but undermine your moral to improve your life and be more successful.
So commit and chase the things that matter most to you. Don’t let anything get in your way.
10. Learn to love your failures.
I told you we’d get back to the topic of failures.
Henry Ford, the founder of the Ford Motor Company, once said, “Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.”
Failure is a part of the process and it’s a chance to learn. Suffering a failure is disappointing, but it’s also a chance to learn what did and didn’t work. Failed attempts and rejections are natural, everyone experiences them, even giants like Henry Ford or Thomas Edison.
Learn to love your failures. Study them and figure out what might work better the next time you go for what you want.
11. Balance your life better.
To be more successful, success doesn’t have to be the main priority in your life.
Just because you want more success at work doesn’t mean you spend all of your free time at work. Wanting more success in relationships doesn’t mean you need to become a door mat.
Try to find a balance that works for you. 70% work and 30% social? A nice and even 50 / 50 split? The choice is totally up to you. Tweak your schedules until things feel right for you.
12. Do what you love.
This primarily relates to work, but it’s no big secret that you (more than likely) won’t succeed at something you don’t truly love.
As I mentioned before, in order to be truly successful, you need to have an innate need and drive to succeed. You have to have a passion, a fire, inside of you that drives you forward in the face of adversity and internally inspires you to keep going.
There’s a quote from Oprah that I really love:
You know you are on the road to success if you would do your job, and not be paid for it.
Having “success” at a job you don’t love isn’t fulfilling at it makes it hard to recover from setbacks. Passion results in motivation and motivation can propel you forward and make you more resilient to life’s unexpected moments.
Even if it’s just a hobby, find something to fill your life with that’s meaningful and that brings you joy. You’ll be happier and more driven.
13. Think big.
This is probably one of the most important parts of being successful.
Many times, we put our dreams aside as something that should be seen as “silly” and choose to pursue (either under pressure from ourselves or pressure from others) more “realistic” pursuits. What would have happened if Michelangelo had done the same? Da Vinci?
Giving up our dreams is sometimes easier than pursuing them, but it won’t leave us feeling fulfilled and it won’t help us feel any more successful. Don’t be afraid to be ambitious and dream big. Go after the things you want unabashedly and unashamed.
Greatness doesn’t stifle itself and neither should you.
The one thing all these habits have in common is cultivating the right state of mind. The key to success isn’t in some fancy planner or some expensive stack of books. It’s about keeping the right frame of mind as you conquer challenges and create the life you want for yourself. Because that’s all success is, after all — reach the dreams and goals you set for yourself.